關於孩子“如廁練習”的問題集 Questions about "potty learning" for children

小花蒙兒總結了講座【孩子"吃，睡覺和戒尿布"的蒙特梭利對話】中關於"戒尿布" 的幾個亮點：

*讓孩子生理有感，孩子需要意識到自己尿濕或者不舒服。

*佈置適當的環境 （小馬桶，小矮凳以換褲子，相關的如廁繪本）

*家長調整自己的心態： 孩子的成長（包括戒尿布）是不會一帆風順，通常是前進三步，再後退兩步。偶爾尿濕，不會提前告知，尿濕了不說等，都是一個過程。

*每個孩子都有自己的時間表。並非說，家長要等到孩子直白地告訴妳："我準備好了"，才開始這個生理議題。

 一直不斷提醒自己： 戒尿布是孩子自己的事情，成人需要做的，就是把環境準備好，心態準備好，陪伴孩子這一過程。

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爸媽心態的新思考：

如果我們把孩子的「戒尿布」過程，看成是一個如廁的學習和練習過程，也許我們就會多了一份理解，耐心，和同理。

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聊聊"戒尿布"中物品的準備： 練習褲

練習褲就是在尿布內褲中間地帶的一種學習褲。雖然它們具有類似布料的質地，可以模仿一般內褲的感覺，但它們由更具吸水性的材料製成，有助於在寶寶尿尿時候防止洩漏。

練習褲的好處？

* 增加獨立性--練習褲的鬆緊腰帶和提拉式設計讓你可以學習自己去洗手間。

* 有吸水性的布材質-- 你可以感覺到"濕"和"不舒服"，但是又不至於"場面讓爸爸媽媽難以收拾"。

* 逐漸過渡--爸爸媽媽希望你可以慢慢過渡和接受， 所以不建議直接從普通尿布改成內褲，因為這種變化可能一下子變得有點難以承受。

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關於孩子穿練習褲的兩三事

首先，爸爸媽媽或者主要照顧者，需要內心真的準備好。就是不管孩子是尿下去，便便大出來等等，都需以平常心並且保持鎮定地去面對。 就是：不管怎麼樣，洗褲子就是了。而且爸爸媽媽還要和善地，和孩子以平常心去溝通："喔，寶貝，你尿濕了/你大便了，我們去坐馬桶和換洗乾淨的練習褲。

"哪種練習褲比較適合？ 

這就看爸爸媽媽個人喜好。我自己是使用eguchitoys的練習褲，於我而言，因為兩個原因：

1）有機棉成分，洗了/烘了兩年多，還很好用（哥哥用完了，輪到弟弟）。而且顏色單純，避免孩子因為要選擇練習褲的款式而各種奔潰。

2）很重要的一點！他家的練習褲後面有兩個小小的拉環帶設計，方便孩子學習自主穿脫褲子。如果妳細心觀察，孩子一開始拉褲子，是只會拉前面，後面會拉不起來。這個拉環設計可以幫助及引導孩子去完成拉提這個動作。多練習後，孩子就也學會了拉小內褲的後面。

到底要準備多少條練習褲才合適？ 

（以下供參考，純粹以我家兩個孩子為例）孩子一開始練習穿練習褲的時候，我是先買了7條。後來發現，完全不夠！因為濕的機會太多了，每天洗，每天烘，雖然我家還有烘衣機，後來我補足了14條（但是發現還是不夠）。但是孩子也是會成長的喔，因為慢慢地，每天尿濕的練習褲數量是會逐漸減少。

還有，為什麼練習褲越早穿，練習坐馬桶這事越早做，會更好更容易？

哥哥從1歲8個月開始，在托嬰中心開始練習穿練習褲。但是那時候，媽媽我還沒有準備好，所以，週末和放假都是繼續穿尿布（因為方便啊！）。很快，到真的要開始"戒尿布"的時候，已經是快2歲了。這時候，terrible two（所謂"可怕的兩歲"）已經開始，你可以想像，要帶孩子去坐馬桶，換尿布等，很多時候變成了一場情緒災難，因為那時候，會有很多"不要！不要"。 弟弟，現在1歲5個月，也已經穿了一段時間的練習褲了。現在要去換練習褲或者坐馬桶的時候，媽媽唱著兒歌，拉著弟弟的手，輕輕鬆鬆進洗手間完成了。 

爸爸媽媽要記得，孩子穿練習褲和坐馬桶，是為了不斷的如廁練習，而不是要求孩子一定要馬上戒掉尿布。

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爸媽一起來練習！

當孩子的練習褲濕了的時候，我們可以：

*（語氣平和）寶貝，你尿濕褲子了， 來，一起換褲子去吧。

*（語氣平和）寶貝，你尿濕褲子了， 濕答答的不舒服，一起去換褲子吧。

*（語氣平和）寶貝，你尿濕褲子了，來，一起來換褲子吧，下次想要去尿尿的時候，可以去馬桶喔！

Petite Blumen summarized the highlights of "Potty learning (also known as getting rid of diapers)" in the lecture [A Montessori Dialogue on Children's "Eating, Sleeping and Potty learning"]:

• Let the child feel "he is wet/uncomfortable" physically. Modern diapers are very good at absorbing the liquid, so children do not readily feel their discomfort.
• Set up a proper environment (child toilet, small stool for changing pants, related toilet learning picture books)
• Parents should set reasonable expectations: Children's growth (including potty learning) will not be smooth sailing for most children, usually three steps forward and two steps back. Occasionally pee into the pants, or not letting parents know in advance, or prefer to poop into the diapers, etc., are expected during the journey.
• Each child has his schedule. It's not that parents have to wait until their children tell you bluntly: "I'm ready" before starting this physiological topic/potty learning, but to acknowledge that each child is different.

Keep reminding yourself: potty learning is the child's own business. What adults can do is to prepare the environment and be there for the child.

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A new way of thinking for the parents about "potty learning":

If we consider the child's "potty learning" process as a learning and practicing process for a life skill, perhaps we will have more understanding, patience, and empathy.

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Talk about the potty learning preparation: training pants.

Training pants are learning pants that are in the in-between category of the diaper and regular underwear. Although training pants have a fabric-like texture that can mimic the feel of ordinary underwear, they are made of more absorbent materials that help prevent leakage when the baby urinates.

The benefits of training pants?

* Increase independence-the elastic waistband and pull-up design of the learning pants allow the child to learn to go to the bathroom by themselves.

* Absorbent cloth material - the child can feel "wet" and "uncomfortable," but not create "the scene makes it difficult for parents to clean up."

* Gradually transition-it is a slow transition process for children. We do not recommend directly changing from ordinary diapers to underwear because it may be too sudden and too much for a child.

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Two or three things about kids wearing training pants

First of all, parents or primary caregivers need to be well prepared. Regardless of whether the child urinates, poops out, etc., adults need to handle it calmly and kindly. That is to say, "no matter what happens, think about washing the pants as the only solution." Adults should kindly communicate with the child: "baby, you are wet/you poop, let's go sit on the toilet and change the training pants.

"Which kind of training pants are more suitable? 

It depends on your personal preferences. I use the training pants from the brand eguchitoys. In my case, it is because of two reasons:

1) Organic cotton ingredients. I washed and dried them for more than two years, and they still work well (I used them for both of my sons). And the color is white, which can prevent the child from melting down because he wants to choose a particular pattern.

2) a critical point! There are two small pull strap designs on the back of the learning pants, which is convenient for children to learn to pull up and take off the pants. If you observe, when the child pulls up the pants when they start to learn, he can only pull the front side but not the back. This pull ring design can help and guide the child to complete the action of pulling up easily. After more practice, the child also learns to pull the backside of the pants.

How many pieces of training pants should we prepare? 

(The following is for reference only, I share my two children as an example) When my child started to practice wearing training pants, I first bought seven pairs. It turned out later that it was not enough! Because there are too many times of changing, I washed and dried them every day. I later added up to 14 of them (but found that it was still not enough). However, the child will also grow up and progress; the number of training pants needed daily will gradually decrease.

Also, why is it that the sooner the child practice wearing training pants and the earlier you practice sitting on the toilet, the better and easier it will be? 

My elder son started wearing training pants at the daycare since he was one year old and eight months old. But at that time, I was the one who is not ready yet, so I continued to let him wear diapers on weekends and holidays (because it was convenient!). Soon, when I started the process of "quitting his diapers," he was almost two years old. At this time, the terrible two kicked in, and you can imagine that asking/inviting the child to sit on the toilet, change diapers, etc., often becomes an emotional disaster because there was a lot of "don't!" Don't". My younger son, who is now one year and five months old, has been wearing training pants for a while. When I changed his wet training pants or invited him to sit on the toilet, I held his hands and walked with him to the bathroom to change while singing nursery rhymes.

Parents must remember that children wear training pants and sit on the toilet for toilet learning and practices, rather than forcing the child to quit diapers immediately.

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Let's practice together, parents!

When the child's learning pants are wet, we can:

* (With a peaceful tone) Baby, you wet your pants, let's change the training pants together.

* (With a peaceful tone) Baby, you wet your pants, and you feel uncomfortable wet, let's change your pants together.

*(With a peaceful tone) Baby, you wet your pants, come, let's change pants together, next time you want to pee, you can go to the toilet!