從三鐵比賽到育兒思考 - From triathlon to parenting reflection
It has been two weeks since I completed my first standard triathlon (51.5km: 1.5km swimming, 40km cycling, and 10km running) in Challenge Taiwan. In the past two weeks, I was still in the resting phase. There was a lot of information in my head, and my body was exhausted, but the whole person was still very excited. After sending my child to the childcare center, I sat in the cafe and began to reflect on what I learned throughout the game and training.
Undeniably, it was because of selfishness and innocence. I signed up for the competition:
I gave birth to my second child in January of this year. In June, I hadn't recovered my health and body shape, so I wanted to use tri-iron aerobic training as my weight loss plan.
There are many life-events wish lists in my life. I have listed the destinations I want to go to or the life experiences I experience on this wish list. Completing a triathlon is one of them.
When I was 26, my mother passed away. I was also misdiagnosed as potential cancer-that heartbreaking journey to set sail again. I will write about it in another blog. Since then, I have a life list that allows me to think about my life more meaningfully and positively.
I want to challenge myself. This year I want to do something for myself, not only for my family or my children but also for myself. Before becoming a wife and mother, I should be me first.
Moreover, I really want to be separated from the children for a few hours and enjoy some quiet moments without being disturbed. (If you are a mother, you know what I'm talking about...)
But I never thought that preparing for and participating in a triathlon is a parenting reflection for me, and it is true! Teaching, by example, is the most effective parenting principle, isn't it? In fact, we cannot let our children know what courage and perseverance are and what cooperation is through words. We can only set an example for them through all life experiences.
As in many sports, preparing for the game is the hardest part. This process is tedious and frustrating. And this is also a lonely journey. Many sports athletes or amateurs need regular training every day or every week to complete the game or fight for results. The training process is full of forwarding and backward progress, so does real life. It is not always wonderful. Sometimes, it is also very frustrating and even makes people lose all hope. Sometimes we just need to believe and don't give up easily, try one or two more times to overcome the difficulties. Occasionally, we need to adjust the method. Sometimes, we just need to take a short rest, breathe again, and refocus.
Courage cannot be taught: it is our inner motivation. I thank my parents for being so enlightened throughout my childhood. Whenever I want to try a new sport or new course, they always encourage me to try it first, instead of making me "fear or shrink" in various ways. The first step is still scary, but once you step out, the rest will become easy. Our children are born with these inner motivations. When they start to walk, they often fall, but they stand up repeatedly and try again. In the end, they learned to walk and walked steadily. They did not complain, "It's too difficult, I don't want to try anymore."
Swimming is a weak point in my competition. I didn't know how to swim three years ago. At the beginning of the game, I had to swim in open water, and then many people interfered with me. This made me feel scared. At that moment, I really thought of giving up, especially when I couldn't find my breath and started to panic and struggle in the water. I caught the float and took a short breath. At that moment, I thought of my children; they are natural explorers and adventurers in life. They did not give up learning to stand, walk, or run, no matter how many times they fell or bumped their heads. "Hell, yes! I will survive, I will finish this game!" Because I want my children to see it, I also dare to learn, challenge, and overcome all the difficulties in progress.
When I started to approach the finish line, I couldn't help but cry. I knew my husband and children were waiting for me at the finish line. I hope they are proud of me, and I hope my children know that everything is possible when you find the goodwill and the right way. I hope my children learn: "You are actually more capable than you think. The sky is infinite, chase it, and try to surpass it! Life is a journey. I hope you can maintain a positive spirit and keep fighting. Never give up easily! Bravely experience the ups and downs of life."
I crossed the finish line hand in hand with my family, I knew I made it! This is a moment I will never forget, and I am proud of myself!